Probably the most productive thing I do with my time is offering to help other people. Most of the time I offer (espeically when it is to women) I usually get profound “fake interest” They seem interested and yet never call back. I’d like to be honest though. When I offer you help I am not trying to sleep with you. If I was not offering help I would probably be doing other unproductive crap such as the following: surfing the net reading the news or shopping, applying for jobs which I will never get because I am not qualified, underqualified, overqualified or too many applicants or the posting is cancelled) or blogging. Here are some of examples of help I have offered people.
* offered to tutor a girl in her twenties in my building. She actually thinks it is okay that she is getting a F in introductory accounting at a community college. Her justification is if her classmates are doing the same then she is average and it must be okay. I’ve got news for you chica. At a four year college it will not be okay because there is always these group of “fobby” Asian people who don’t speak a word of English and somehow manage to do better than everyone else. For the Certified Public Accountancy you need to get at least 75% correct to just pass. If your goal is to be average and like everyone else you must be living under a rock or something because the truth is there are a lot of smart, motivated and brilliant people out there.
* edit the resumes of several of my colleagues. Some are girls I know who live with their boyfriends and don’t work. Nothing disappoints me more than watching my mother in an awful marriage for twenty-five years because she was not independent, didn’t make her own income and solely had to rely on the support of her husband. The others were at my previous job said they hated their job, asked me for help editing their resumes or giving them leads on other work. Everyone I know says they hate their job, but what frustrates me is that few do anything to change it. “There is a difference between knowing the path and walking the path.” Read this guy’s blog that was featured on wordpress. If you’re not going to do anything about it quit complaining http://uncrunched.com/2011/11/27/startups-are-hard-so-work-more-cry-less-and-quit-all-the-whining/
I agree I complain a lot. But I do put in a more concerted effort than most to change the situation.
* an Army war veteran from Afghanistan who was begging on the street. He said he needs winter boots size 10 1/2. Not only do I have a soft spot for war veterans I am a military officer reject myself. But in the Nov. 21 issue of TIME Magazine about the widening gap between the civilian and military population due to the small number of military personnel compared to the civilian population and the fact that we’ve been at war for over ten years and no one in America really cares because we have our own problems. I gave him my phone number and should he contact me I will be bugging everyone I know who wears 10 1/2 for a pair of boots.
Some people who I have helped have asked me what I they can do for me in return. After all you don’t get something for nothing. Or that saying there is no such thing as a free lunch. I would like a military age waiver, a ridiculously gorgeous, altruistic and intelligent girlfriend or a job lead. But I know most of those probably will never happen. So I simply ask that you pay it forward. Help someone out in the future. I wish there was someone who helped me realize when I was younger some of the mistakes I made before I made them. Heck I’d be farther along in life.